Loving with inspired curiosity
Loving with inspired curiosity, not control.
I believe that much of life is a lesson in this special type of nurturing, learning how to mother and birth a creation. (This is independent of gender). We have all had a opportunity in our lives to foster a new creation, to raise a puppy, to produce a new product for market, to build a house, to tend to a plant, or to raise a child are among the many opportunities offered in a lifetime.
When the “thing” I birth has obvious life to it, I can easily recognize my own lack of power/control. Meaning, try as I may, I cannot make the puppy pee outside any sooner than it wants to, or force the child become an adult any sooner than it chooses. We are nurturers of these small charges for only a period of time.
This skill of nurturing without controlling is what is demanding our attention now. Everywhere, things that have been controlled are dying or breaking free and demanding autonomy.
Where do you notice this around you right now? In a monopoly break up, in a marriage dissolution, in a death actual or metaphorically, in a person’s rebellion?
I am reflecting myself on what I need to release, on what or who is not my responsibility nor mine to attempt to control. It is a test of my patience to be only a co-creator in the process. To realize that my creations are alive, like a child. They have a destiny and a desire, even those in a business setting. (This is what corporations/business owners do not understand when caught by surprise by a new venture’s failure).
We are only the gardeners. The plant itself will decide it’s own destiny. Our grown children will decide for themselves, as well my cat that has been peeing on my floor recently (lol).
If a child runs, it will run because it wants to, because it is inspired to. We cannot force it to move. Just like all parents, we cannot force our human children to be anything other than what they wish to be. In addition, we cannot force our partners to be anything other than what they wish to be. Some business ventures are destined to succeed and some to fail.
However, we can nurture and encourage.
We can tend to our metaphorical garden. We can hold space for those we love to make empowering and courageous choices. We can foster our own patience and compassion when they cannot yet. We can respect our creations and their wisdom, as we respect the living beings we see everyday. We can see the possibility in the people around us learning to release control and to love another with inspired curiosity.
We can see the possibility in ourselves as well.
